What’s the best way to find myself?

I have found myself. I have lost a part of myself. I am not really in contact with my self. Quite funny really.
What we really are saying is: I have an experience of my self that I don’t like. How do we find something that has never been lost? If you find anything, it has to be an experience – to find who you are, the magnetic attraction of experiences, has to be put aside.